Wednesday, April 10, 2013

National Poetry Month - Billy Collins

Harvest in Provence - Vincent Van Gogh, 1888

Billy Collins was America's Poet Laureate from 2001 - 2003.  I became a fan of his poetry during his appointment as Poet Laureate.  His poems are very approachable, and I would have a hard time choosing a favorite.  Here is one you might enjoy (from Sailing Alone Around the Room).

The Night House

Every day the body works in the fields of the world
mending a stone wall
or swinging a sickle through the tall grass--
the grass of civics, the grass of money--
and every night the body curls around itself
and listens for the soft bells of sleep.

But the heart is restless and rises
from the body in the middle of the night,
leaves the trapezoidal bedroom
with its thick, pictureless walls
to sit by herself at the kitchen table
and heat some milk in a pan.

And the mind gets up too, puts on a robe
and goes downstairs, lights a cigarette,
and opens a book on engineering.
Even the conscience awakens
and roams from room to room in the dark,
darting away from every mirror like a strange fish.

And the soul is up on the roof
in her nightdress, straddling the ridge,
singing a song about the wildness of the sea
until the first rip of pink appears in the sky.
Then, they all will return to the sleeping body
the way a flock of birds settles back into a tree,

resuming their daily colloquy,
talking to each other or themselves
even through the heat of the long afternoons.

Which is why the body--that house of voices--
sometimes puts down its metal tongs, its needle, or its pen
to stare into the distance,

to listen to all its names being called
before bending again to its labor.
---Billy Collins

Lady Sewing - Pierre-Auguste Renoir, 1879

For more poems celebrating National Poetry Month, click here.

Monday, April 8, 2013

National Poetry Month - William Blake

Mother tiger at Hogle Zoo

I heard the purpose of National Poetry Month (April) is to celebrate American poets.  I appreciate that, however, I am taking the position that I can use this month to promote poetry in general.  Please don't be offended by my use of poets of other nationalities, just take the opportunity to celebrate some great poems.  Enjoy!

The Tyger

Tyger! Tyger! burning bright
In the forests of the night,
What immortal hand or eye
Could frame thy fearful symmetry?

In what distant deeps or skies
Burnt the fire of thine eyes?
On what wings dare he aspire?
What the hand dare seize the fire?

And what shoulder, and what art,
Could twist the sinews of thy heart?
And when thy heart began to beat,
What dread hand? and what dread feet?

What the hammer? what the chain?
In what furnace was thy brain?
What the anvil? what dread grasp
Dare its deadly terrors to clasp?

When the stars threw down their spears,
And water'd heaven with their tears,
Did he smile his work to see?
Did he who made the Lamb make thee?

Tyger! Tyger! burning bright
In the forests of the night,
What immortal hand or eye,
Dare frame thy fearful symmetry?

Tiger in the water at Hogle Zoo.

Here are other poems you might enjoy:

Monday, April 1, 2013

Maeve Binchy's Last Novel - A Week in Winter



I first became acquainted with Maeve Binchy's work many years ago when I was reading a memoir by Barbara Bush.  Mrs. Bush was a big fan of Maeve Binchy, and after reading about Binchy's novels, I decided to try one.  I was instantly a fan.  Binchy's work has let me live on Tara Road and meet a whole new Circle of Friends (the book is much better than the movie).  I have studied Italian in an Evening Class and spent Nights of Rain and Stars in Greece.  I have attended a Silver Wedding and stood under a Copper Beech.  Through Binchy's novels I have eaten at Quentin's and been to events catered by Scarlet Feather.  This amazing Irish author consistently crafted wonderfully companionable novels that occupied me for many an hour.

Author Maeve Binchy

Maeve Binchy passed away in July 2012.  I was sad to learn of her passing, and didn't write about it at the time as I was recovering from cancer surgery, but I have thought of her and her contributions to my library many times since.  I recently read her last novel, A Week in Winter, and it does not disappoint.  This final book is Binchy at her best.  Main character Chicky Starr falls in love and leaves Ireland to go to America with her lover.  When the relationship ends, Chicky can't face telling her family back in Ireland the truth.  She remains in New York, gains work experience, and tells the family back home about her married life in America.  Years later, when the facade threatens to come crashing down, Chicky lets everyone know her fictitious husband has died, and she returns home to Ireland.  There she takes on a wonderful old home, and converts it to a holiday retreat called Stone House, offering a week of vacation on Ireland's Atlantic coast.  In succeeding chapters, Binchy introduces a wonderful cast of characters who come to stay for the opening week.  In another author's hands, telling the stories of so many people could be clumsy at best, and fail to move the book along.  Not so under Binchy's experienced, talented hand.  A Week in Winter was a treat from start to finish, and I will vacation at Stone House in Ireland again and again.  The storylines of the different characters weave together seamlessly in this last work, in the way only Binchy could do so well.  Maeve, you will be missed!  Thank you for a last, wonderful read.

This wonderful quote is on Maeve Binchy's website, and I have included a link to her site here. If you are not acquainted with this best-selling author, you might want to put her on your summer reading list.


"I'd like people to think I was a good friend and a reasonable story-teller and to know that thanks to all the great people, family and friends that I met, I was very, very happy when I was here."
Maeve Binchy



Monday, March 25, 2013

Birding at Farmington Bay Part 2

Canada geese at Farmington Bay

Leaving the Goose Egg Island area, it was only a short drive to the Great Salt Lake Nature Center.  The turnoff to the Nature Center is near the end of Glover Lane.

Road to the Great Salt Lake Nature Center

The road is marked with faded brown signs, and you can see the Nature Center from Glover Lane, so I didn't think this was particularly difficult to find.  However, Glover Lane doesn't have a lot of signage, so do watch for the turn-off.

Great Salt Lake Nature Center

The Great Salt Lake Nature Center has a large parking area, a couple of buildings, vault toilets, and a viewing deck.  Inside the Nature Center you can read information on the local birds, pick up a brochure or two, and view taxidermy mounts of birds.

Barn Owl and Short-Eared Owl

For Tundra Swan Day, the Nature Center also had tissue paper and origami instructions for folding a swan.  This is a nice little one-roomed building and only takes a few minutes to explore.

Ducks and geese adorn the walls of the Great Salt Lake Nature Center.

Being able to view a bird up close makes it easier to identify them in the field at a distance.  There are several quality mounts here, including a tundra swan.  The Nature Center is a great way for children to see the birds up close.

Great Blue Heron Rookery

Just outside the parking area is the Great Blue Heron Rookery.  This nesting site is closed to the public, but you can see the birds and their nests from the Nature Center parking area.  It was fun to see these long-legged birds on their nests.  From the parking area, we walked on a boardwalk trail that is ADA accessible. We wandered past ponds and to observation points, and although I could not always see the birds, I could definitely hear them, as well as croaking frogs. I even saw a muskrat in the water.

Observation deck near the Great Salt Lake Nature Center.

I passed Canada geese feeding in the brush, and also saw several flying overhead.  One called to them from the water, and the group honked back.

Canada geese in flight

One of the birds that was "new" for me on this visit was a redhead duck.  They look a lot like a canvasback, but have a grayer body, and a light bill.  This pair of redheads were swimming along together on one of the ponds.

Redhead ducks at Farmington Bay

The Great Salt Lake Nature Center is open from 8am to 4:30pm on weekdays, and is only open on some Saturdays. The boardwalk and center are very kid-friendly, and it is wonderful to have this expanse of open space so close to Salt Lake City.

Nesting box

From the trails, we could see various styles of nesting boxes.  I wonder who will take up residence in this box this summer?  It was a great day to visit the Great Salt Lake Nature Center, and I plan to make my way here again!

If you go:  From Salt Lake City, drive north on I-15.  Take Exit 322 (this is the Farmington/Lagoon exit).  The off ramp forks.  Take the right fork (the left fork goes to Lagoon).  Continue on the off-ramp until you reach the turn-off to the frontage road.  Turn right onto the frontage road.  This road curves, and you will be heading south parallel to the freeway.  Turn right (west) on 925 S. which is Glover's Lane.  Glover's Lane will take you to the Farmington Bay Waterfowl Management area.  If you turn left on 1325 West, you will be on the road that will take you to Goose Egg Island and the Main Dike Road.  Continue on Glover's Lane to reach the Great Salt Lake Nature Center.  Turn left before the end of the road to reach the Nature Center.  You will be able to see it from Glover's Lane. 

To see more birds, including tundra swans, see Birding at Farmington Bay

Friday, March 22, 2013

Birding at Farmington Bay

Great Blue Heron at Farmington Bay

Last Saturday, March 16, was "Tundra Swan Day" at the Farmington Bay Waterfowl Management Area.  Since I had not yet managed to see a tundra swan during their migration through northern Utah, I decided to try my luck at Farmington Bay.  This Great Blue Heron posed for photos near the entrance to the refuge.  The water was so still, his reflection was very clear!

Bald Eagle at Farmington Bay

Binoculars are very helpful in viewing the birds at Farmington Bay.  Some Division of Natural Resources (DNR) employees told me the ice on the water had broken up about a week ago, and the birds had a larger range in which to feed.  As I drove toward into the refuge area, I spotted this bald eagle.  Bald eagles winter in Utah, and are quite prevalent in January and February in this area, but this one lingered into March.

Goose Egg Island

My next stop was Goose Egg Island.  This part of Farmington Bay is open year round.  Some areas close during nesting season. Goose Egg Island is not really an island, but a mound formation from which you can view ponds and birds.

Turn-off to the Goose Egg Island parking area.

This dirt road takes you to the parking area on top of Goose Egg Island.  Today there were birders and families here, but there was ample parking, and fortunately it was not too muddy.  From Goose Egg Island I had my first look at a tundra swan.  I also saw Canada geese, American coots, and some northern shovelers.

Two tundra swans as seen from Goose Egg Island.

I drove down the dike road to see more birds. The "Unit 1 Dike" to the Turpin parking area is open year round to bicycle and foot traffic.  It closes to motorized vehicles during nesting season.  At the end of the road,  DNR employees had some spotting scopes set up and were on hand to distribute information and answer questions.  They informed me there were about 5000 tundra swans in the area.  I probably saw over 50 on my visit.

Tundra Swans dozing at Farmington Bay

After viewing the swans and seeing more American coots, I headed back to Glover Lane to visit another part of this refuge.  The Great Salt Lake Nature Center is also part of the Farmington Bay Waterfowl Management Area, and that is where I headed next.

My bird list for the day:
Red-winged blackbird
Canada goose
bald eagle
great blue heron
tundra swan
northern shoveler
American coot
redhead duck

For info on the Great Salt Lake Nature Center also at Farmington Bay, see Birding at Farmington Bay Part 2.

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Thursday, March 14, 2013

Another Year, Another Pi Day!


It's that time of year again, Pi Day!  Did you know that pi has been extended beyond 6 billion digits?  Or that a Japanese man once recited over 83,000 digits of pi that he had memorized?  You needed an excuse for pie, today, right?  Happy March 14th!

Here is my "pi-ku" (Haiku, but follows a pi pattern of syllables, 3 - 1 - 4).

I would like
a
large piece of pie.

See how easy it is?  Try it, and let me know your results!

For links and fun ideas for celebrating Pi Day, check out my previous blog post.

Wednesday, March 13, 2013

Create Your Own Film Festival - Part 2

Movie Poster - Mao's Last Dancer

Now that you have watched your animation choice and documentary (see Create Your Own Film Festival - Part 1), it is time to curl up with popcorn and a feature film.  Here are a few quality movies that you may have missed, or that you may want to see again.  Each works well as a stand alone film, or as part of your own "festival" experience.

Scene from "Mao's Last Dancer"

Mao's Last Dancer (2009) is the story of Li Cunxin, who, at the tender age of 11, was taken from his home in China and placed in training for classical ballet at the Madame Mao's Dance Academy in Beijing.  Years later, he goes to Houston on a cultural exchange and performs with the ballet company there.  Li Cunxin falls in love with another dancer, Elizabeth Mackey, and faces a difficult choice:  marry her and defect to the US, or leave her behind and return to China.  The cinematography in this autobiographical movie is stunning.  This is a beautiful movie, and a story that will stay with you long after the film is done.  Mao's Last Dancer is rated PG.

A Separation - Movie Poster

A Separation (2011) is an Iranian movie about the difficult choices we face in a family.  It won both an Oscar and Golden Globe award for Best Foreign Language Film. Simin and Nader are a married couple with a young daughter (Temeh).  Nader feels he must stay in Iran and care for his aging father who suffers from Alzheimer's.  He fulfills his responsibilities as a son with tenderness and devotion.  His wife, Simin, however, wishes to move to another country to give their young daughter more opportunities.  Nader cannot leave his father, and cannot take him with them to another land, and as a married lady, Simin cannot leave the country without Nader's permission.  So, Simin makes the difficult choice to seek a divorce. This couple clearly loves each other, and there is no easy solution to the dilemmas they face.  This is a thoughtful movie, and very well made.  A Separation is rated PG-13.

Sarah's Key promotional poster

Sarah's Key (2010) is based on the novel of the same name by Tatiana De Rosnay.  In Sarah's Key, journalist Julia Jarmond (Kristin Scott Thomas) is researching the Vel d'Hiv roundup of Jews in 1942 Paris for an article.  One of 13,000 victims was young Sarah Starzynski.  As the police rounded up her family to take them to a stadium in Paris, Sarah hides her younger brother in a secret cupboard to protect him. Her actions have devastating consequences.  As Julia investigates this event in Paris, she finds many are reluctant to discuss this awful history.  She also learns of Sarah's terrible secret, and that her husband's family have secrets of their own.  How do you live with the consequences of your choices, and how do you move on from the past?  These are questions raised in this film.  I was not very familiar with Vel d'Hiv, and learned a lot from this movie.  Sarah's Key is rated PG-13.

The Visitor - Movie poster

The Visitor (2007) tells the story of professor Walter Vale.  He is lonely, widowed, and teaching part time. He returns to New York for a speaking engagement, only to find his apartment occupied by a young immigrant couple.  Vale sympathizes with the young couple, Syrian- born Tarek and Senegalese Zainab, and agrees to let them stay.  Tarek teaches Walter to play an African drum, and the two become friends.  When Tarek is arrested after a subway incident and taken to a detention center, Walter hires a lawyer to help his young friend.  Meanwhile, Tarek's mother shows up, and Vale discovers he may be able to love again. The plight of illegal immigrants is not played for sentimentality in this moving story, and the ending will make you think.  This is a film that leaves the you examining your views of a complex and timely issue.  The Visitor is rated PG-13.

Check out my other blog posts for more film festival ideas, and happy watching!




Saturday, March 2, 2013

Happy Birthday Dr. Seuss!

From "Green Eggs and Ham"

In honor of "Green Eggs and Ham" and Dr. Seuss, don't be afraid to try something new.  You might like it!

"Say!  I like green eggs and ham!  I do!  I like them, Sam-I-am!"


Thursday, February 14, 2013

Heloise and Abelhard - A Love Story for Valentine's Day

Heloise and Abelhard - Pere LaChaise Cemetery in Paris

Heloise and Abelhard were twelfth century lovers whose romance is preserved in their correspondence.  Abelhard was a poet, philosopher, and religious teacher.  Heloise was his student, and the two fell in love.  She became pregnant, and they secretly married.  After Heloise was sent to a convent, her uncle had Abelhard castrated.  He entered a monastery, and they lived out their lives apart.  This tragic couple of the Middle Ages were intense in their intellectual pursuits, and in their love for each other.

When the Pere LaChaise Cemetery was created in Paris, it was not very popular.  The erection of a monument honoring Heloise and Abelhard made the cemetery an appealing place.  Now crowded with amazing monuments, the cemetery is popular with visitors today.

For Valentine's Day, I decided to post a couple of quotes from their letters demonstrating their love for each other.  Enjoy!

From Heloise:  To half my heart and part of my soul:  what I am I entrust to you.  I am yours as long as I live.

From Abelhard:  If I am remembered, it will be for this:  that I was loved by Heloise.

Epitaph in the Pere LaChaise Cemetery in Paris for Abelhard and Heloise by Catherine de la Rochefoucauld, Abbess of the Paraclete, 1701:  The love, which had joined their spirits in life and which lives on through their most tender and spiritual letters, has reunited their bodies in this tomb.

Happy Valentine's Day!

Wednesday, January 30, 2013

"Pride and Prejudice" Turns 200!


This week marks the 200th anniversary of the publication of Jane Austen's classic novel Pride and Prejudice.  I wonder if Austen every dreamed her book would have such staying power, or if she would be horrified by all of the spin-offs from her incredible novel.  

Pride and Prejudice, for those of you who have somehow managed to miss this work, is the story of Miss Elizabeth Bennet, one of five sisters, and her romance with Mr. Fitzwilliam Darcy.  Of course, their relationship begins on rocky footing with Mr. Darcy refusing to dance at a ball, deeming none of the women suitable.  Over the course of the novel, the two continue to encounter each other, and Mr. Darcy, at least, grows fond of Elizabeth.  His harsh criticisms of her family, however, cause her to reject his clumsy proposal.  Who can't help but smile at the scene where Darcy comes out of the blue to declare his intentions to her?

"'In vain I have struggled.  It will not do.  My feelings will not be repressed.  You must allow me to tell you how ardently I admire and love you.'
Elizabeth's astonishment was beyond expression.  She stared, coloured, doubted, and was silent."  (from Pride and Prejudice).

Illustration from Pride and Prejudice

Austen's writing contains so many insights into human behavior that it resonates even today, two hundred years later.  Her characters are flawed, which makes them all the more lovable.  Austen's novels have happy endings, and getting there is fun.  Early in Pride and Prejudice, Elizabeth says to Darcy, "I had not known you a month before I felt that you were the last man in the world whom I could ever be prevailed on to marry."  The journey from that beginning to their happy ending is a literary pleasure.

If you haven't read Pride and Prejudice, you might want to indulge now, and see what has given it such popularity.  As for me, I think it is about time to read it again.  Happy Birthday, Pride and Prejudice!


Thursday, January 17, 2013

Create Your Own Film Festival - Part 1

Sundance Film Festival

The Sundance Film Festival opens today in Park City, Utah.  If you are like me and have never attended a film festival, that shouldn't stop you from having one in your own home!  Many films you may have missed are easily accessible now, often free from the public library.  January is the perfect time to hole up with some blankets, hot chocolate, popcorn, and a couple of good movies.  Here are some recommendations for a "Do-It-Yourself" film festival experience.

Pixar Shorts

Start your evening with an short animation or two.  Pixar has released two collections of their short films, and both are delightful.  Some shorts feature well-known Pixar characters, like Buzz Lightyear.  My favorite shorts, however, are stand alone stories, like "Partly Cloudy" on Pixar Short Films Volume 2.

Scene from a Pixar short - "For the Birds"

Follow your short films with a documentary.  Since documentaries can be scarce in theaters, this is a good time to catch up on some you have missed.  Any of the documentaries listed below are suitable for family viewing.

Cave of Forgotten Dreams movie poster

In the "Cave of Forgotten Dreams," Werner Herzog takes you inside the Chauvet cave in France for an intimate look at ancient cave art.  The film crew was granted incredible access for only a few days to this amazing collection of cave images.  Although theatrically this often played in a 3D format, the 2D version is also beautiful.

One of my favorite paintings from the Chauvet cave.

"Waiting for Superman" was the 2010 Audience Documentary Award winner at the Sundance Film Festival. Filmmaker David Guggenheim follows five students as they try to get in to a charter school via a lottery system.  "Waiting for Superman" explores the failings in the public school system, as well as the potentials of educational alternatives like charter schools.  Guggenheim blends the stories of the five families with statistics on the American educational system.  I have not yet seen this movie, but it is on my list for my own film festival!

Waiting for Superman movie is about the failings for public education.

"First Position" is another documentary about students competing for an opportunity, only this time the arena is the world of ballet.

First Position poster

The description on the poster summarizes the film beautifully - "6 dancers, 5 minutes on stage, 1 chance to make it."  "First Position" follows 6 young ballet dancers, male and female, who are preparing to compete in the Youth America Grand Prix.  Competitions such as the Youth America Grand Prix provide an opening to ballet companies around the world, and young dancers from all over the world compete in hopes of attaining scholarships and positions with ballet companies that may lead to a career as a professional dancer.  The hours spent training and preparing are incredible, and the dedication of these children is amazing.  This is a beautiful film, and you will find yourself rooting for these kids to make it.  I would gladly see this one again.

Image from the documentary "First Position"

Buck Brannaman worked as a consultant on the film "The Horse Whisperer."  He travels the country 40 weeks of the year teaching horse clinics and helping others learn to work with their animals without using "punishing" methods.

Promotional image for the documentary "Buck"

The film, "Buck" follows Brannaman on his clinic circuit, and also tells the story of his rough past with an abusive father.  When his football coach becomes aware of the beatings Buck is taking at the hands of his father, he notifies law enforcement, and Buck spends the rest of his growing up years with foster parents, the Shirleys.  Brannaman manages a good relationship with his own family despite his time away on the road each year.  His work with horses will amaze you, and this film is a must-see.  Horse training techniques and life lessons mix easily in this wonderful documentary.  This gentle man points out we all make choices in life, and he is to be commended for not following in the footsteps of his own father.  "Buck" won the Documentary Audience Award at the Sundance Film Festival in 2011.  

Check out Create Your Own Film Festival - Part 2 for some great dramatic feature films to round out your festival experience.

Saturday, January 12, 2013

The Art of Distraction

Twitch on a horse

Have you ever seen a twitch?  It is a loop that is placed on a horse's lip, and then tightened to a point of minimal discomfort.  The idea is not to injure or torment the horse, but to keep the animal focused on the twitch instead of some other procedure being done to them.  Sounds simple, safe, and effective, right?   A twitch definitely has its place in animal husbandry.  But I am sure it can be overused or used inappropriately.

Lately I have been thinking about the "twitches" I use in my own life.  Some are positive, some could easily be overused.  I am also being reminded that discomfort is relative.  Take surgery, for example. When I had mine this summer, it was difficult to go through the recovery process.  After several weeks, I was frustrated that I wasn't healed one hundred percent, and I could whine about the inconveniences I was experiencing.  Enter a new experience:  I got a port.  This new procedure gave me some new soreness to contemplate, and I realized the surgical site had probably progressed much further than I cared to admit.  The port, thankfully, is healing rapidly.  But just as I wanted to whine and complain about that, I started chemotherapy.  Which made the port seem like the best thing ever.  So far my side effects have been completely manageable, but they still don't feel great.  It has brought home to me the relativity of each new experience.  What seems difficult today is easily supplanted by some new difficulty.  The worst thing in my life right now?  Probably whatever is happening in the moment!  I am distracted by the freshness of each new thing.

Sometimes the new procedure or experience acts as a twitch to give me perspective on whatever I have been going through.  Other times, I need to create my own twitch as a distraction and a coping method.  I think common twitches for people today involve the usage of technology.  I am not an exception to this.  I have dealt with a lot of discomforts these last few weeks with television, video games, apps on my smartphone, and more.  I have also read, done puzzles, listened to music, and even worked on a cross stitch project.  The best twitch of all was watching two weeks of coverage of the London Olympics while recovering from surgery.  Couldn't have timed that one any better!

So, what I have learned is to be more consciously aware of the twitches I am using in life and why.  How easy it is to put off some task I don't want to do and become distracted by meaningless twitches!  I am ashamed to admit how often I can waste time...but then again, I know you have all done it, too.  So, what are your twitches?  Are they positive things that help you cope?  Or do you have a twitch that gets in the way of what you were supposed to be doing?

Thursday, January 10, 2013

Balancing Acts

Baby elephant on a tightrope

Cancer is a huge time sucker.  Really!  I had no idea.  It takes over your life.  One week I was supposed to have one doctor's appointment.  A light week, really.  Just one appointment!  It was a long appointment.  And after it was over, I had a whole slate of new things to fit into my schedule that week which required a bit of juggling, the help of other people, and a whole lot of time.

It happens to all of us, though.  We are making it through our day or week, and then WHAM!  Something happens that throws a wrench in our schedule.  It may be a sick child, a big project at work, a home repair that needs to be addressed, a health crisis, a natural disaster, a family matter...insert your own challenge here.  What makes it doable?  How do you manage when that unexpected thing comes up?

Acrobats balancing.

I have never been a queen of organization, but I am learning that I am not completely disorganized, either.  And guess what?  All of those time management and organizational people may be right...the more organized you are, the more you can juggle these extras into your life.  I hate to admit it, but I think they are on to something. Planning ahead has definitely helped me to cope.

Here are some things that have been helpful to me:
*Planning meals:  I keep the pantry, fridge, and freezer stocked with meals made ahead, or ingredients that make putting dinner on the table quick and easy.  For difficult days following surgery or chemotherapy, I lined up friends and relatives to bring in meals and help with cleaning.  It has really been a lifesaver.  Knowing there is always something on hand for my family to eat has been a tremendous blessing.

*Do your homework:  Reading up on my surgery online helped me glean tips from other women as to how to prepare.  A comfortable post-mastectomy camisole, button-up shirts, and pillows to prop up my arm were just a few amenities I was glad to have when I came home from the hospital.  After attending chemo class, I stocked up on some basics to help with potential side effects, and it was nice to know going into the week without knowing what lovely side effects would hit me or when, that I had coping mechanisms in place.  No late night trips to the store for me (or my nice husband)!

*Ask for help:  This one is surprisingly hard.  However, I am learning to ask people to take some things off my plate, and that relieves the stress, too.   I am also learning that asking for help keeps too much stress from piling up on my family.  So, when your own crisis hits, ask for help until you get your balance back.  Friends, neighbors, and relatives are surprisingly willing to help with children, driving, cleaning, food, cash, and other things you may need when your life throws you a curve ball.

William Arthur Ward is quoted as saying "A well-developed sense of humor is the pole that adds balance to your steps as you walk the tightrope of life."  I agree.  Look for reasons to laugh.  For me, though, my spiritual life is an even more important coping mechanism than a sense of humor.  I recommend both.

What are the ways you cope with the unexpected events in your life?  How do you keep your balance and keep your life moving forward in a crisis?

Monday, January 7, 2013

Moving to a New Planner

Planners Vary by Color and Design

Pablo Picasso said "Our goals can only be reached through a vehicle of a plan, in which we must fervently believe, and upon which we must vigorously act.  There is no other route to success."

Every January it is time for me to move into a new planner.  I know, many of you have gone completely digital, but let me just share my experiences with that.  I own a smartphone.  But it isn't that smart.  My first smartphone inconveniently forgot how a touch screen works.  No touch screen, no smartphone.  Smartphone #2 had battery issues.  It wouldn't do anything except phone or text.  No battery function, no smartphone.  I am now on a new incarnation of phone and battery, but I have trust issues at this point.  Being slightly negligent in the back-up department, I am reluctant to trust too much information to that phone of mine.  Paper planners may be dated, but they have NEVER let me down!  So, if you are all digital, good for you!  I am, however, completing my January ritual of moving in to a fresh, new planner.

Plain, but practical.

Planners are personal.  And I believe I have to like my planner or I won't use it.  I am not a slave to my planner.  I easily leave large blank areas in all my planners, but when I need to track a lot of details, my planner is invaluable.  This is my 2013 planner.  It is pale purple.  It wasn't my first choice based on appearance, but it had the features I wanted.  First, it isn't too thick, and it fits into my purse.

A Monthly View

Secondly, I have to have a monthly view in a planner.  I do most of my calendering, tracking, planning, etc. on this page, so it is important to me.  Many calendars just have a weekly view, but I often don't use the weekly pages, so those planners do not work well for me.

Family organizer

Time of life impacts planner usage as well.  When I used these family-style planners, keeping grocery lists and planning menus were as important to the function of our busy family as all of the sporting events and music lessons.  This planner had sidebars dedicated to those two things.  Life has altered a bit now, and I have abandoned the thick family organizer for a slimmer model.  Although I am a casual planner, I find I get more done when I commit it to paper.

Weekly View

My new planner has weekly pages behind the monthly view.  I paper clip the month page to the current week and can find my plans quickly and easily.  I preferred the artistic design of a couple other planners the day I bought mine, but they lacked other features.  This planner has January 2014 in it, always a plus.  It also includes planning pages, contact pages, and a few blank pages for note taking.  This additional capability and versatility made me choose the "plainer planner."  Function over form, in this case.  

There is something hopeful about moving into a new planner.  I choose which things to carry over from the previous year.  I can let the disappointments go, and not move them in to my fresh, new pages.  Each new planner is a fresh start. I can do better this year.  I can put in the plans that really matter to me.  I find this annual ritual to be an act of optimism!

Planning or dreaming?

Despite my best intentions to plan, blank pages exist frequently in my planners, old and new.  Are the blanks lost opportunities?  Could I have done more if I filled them in?  Maybe.  But maybe the blank spaces are where the dreams hatch.  I liked this quote by Gloria Steinhem:  "Without leaps of imagination, or dreaming, we lose the excitement of possibilities.  Dreaming, after all, is a form of planning."

What type of planner do you use?  What helps you accomplish things in your life?  I wish you the excitement of possibilities this year as you plan and dream!